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For some people, work can be an integral part of a fulfilling life. However, it can also cause significant problems in a marriage, increasing tension and sometimes even leading to separation. Here are ten of the most significant ways in which  work may affect your marriage. 1. Reduced emotional energy When you pour a lot of your energy into work, you can find yourself with very little energy to nurture the marriage. Consequently, you may fail to notice problems that need to be solved, or even deliberately avoid engaging with problems because you are too tired to deal with them. 2. Short tempers Stress at work can easily spill over into the relationship, leading to a reduced level of tolerance for your partner’s quirks and personal flaws. You may have less patience, be more critical and struggle to listen to your spouse’s perspective. 3. Displacement On a similar note, you may start to use displacement as a defense mechanism. When you defend yourself in t...

The sun sets on another day. You did everything you could to wind down, like taking a walk or drinking some wine and tried to keep your thoughts focused on happier things. But then as you cozy into bed, the feeling begins to rise up. The longing. The hurt. You switch off the light, only to wind up staring at the ceiling, where the memories of you and him dance just out of reach. You find yourself wishing about how you can stop thinking about him at night. Letting go and moving on is easy when you are preoccupied. Night time is a different zone, though. The day has come to an end, and you find yourself thinking about the things you are suddenly without. The mind wanders easily at night, and so even if you did not think about him throughout work or school, you are going to be bombarded with emotions and memories. Do not suppress the thoughts When you try to force yourself not to think about something or someone, usually the exact opposite happens. You can squeeze your eyes s...